I have had two little conversations this week with full time working Mum's. One was online, one was this morning on the phone. Both of these women have circumstances this week that have had them wishing they were able to be right where her mother-heart would have her be. My heart just ached for both of these ladies.
Whilst I don't know the online lady too well, the IRL friend has had a rather large impact in our family. She taught Miss Mischief in Year 3 and Year 4 ~ two straight years. This fellow Mum has journeyed with us in shaping Miss Mischief and one day, when Miss Mischief is all grown up, this friend will have the right to say "I helped do that".
However, these conversations have been on my mind and have had me pondering the perfect family myth. I mentioned that I'm facilitating a parenting course, targeted at families with 0-4yo's. One of the things we looked at was what our idea of the perfect family is, and then we talked about being 'good enough'. Being a 'good enough' Mum (and Dad!) means that we're providing a close and caring relationship with our kids. We recognise and respond to their needs. We protect our kids by setting limits and ensuring they are safe. We provide them opportunities to learn and develop and we help them learn to resolve conflict and to cooperate with others.
You know what I think? I think that God places men AND women to be in all kinds of places. He calls some of us to be SAHM's...but He calls others to workplaces that impact on the people around them in positive ways. To all you who are working Mum's and face this dilemma of priorities and all of us who feel like we're not doing a very good job as a Mum....I would say we are. Being Good Enough is indeed good enough!
Now you'll have to excuse me while I go and have myself a little cry for all the precious women who need to know they're doing a great job.