But I'm tired of the parenting bit that comes with everyone living here. They make me forget I'm really a nice person.
When I was in the car with Miss Mischief the other day I finally nailed the problem. When I was exactly Miss Sunshine's age I was just barely married and had moved out. I was the queen of my own little castle; boss of my own space. I also worked full time from 18yo. I didn't go to University so I was pretty independent from the minute I became an adult. This is completely and utterly the opposite of my own baby adults, who are pursuing higher education and a gap year before beginning study. Mostly kids don't leave home to go to University in Australia. Certainly, when you live in or around a major city students simply commute rather than live on-campus. University housing is very limited and costs more than my mortgage!
It seems like each season of parenting begins with a major mental and emotional shift and this is no different. I need to have a long think about what this season needs to look like, and what makes sense for us. Things like expectations and responsibilities, and then clarity for everyone in our home so we're all on the same page. Indeed, what the page should even look like. I remember it taking me about six months to fully adjust to having all my children off at school, and what that would look like for me, as a SAHM. Clearly I'm a little slow off the mark for this season. Or maybe I've just finally conceded that I'm weary! I have recently resorted to blaming some of my parenting decisions on things like "You all know he's the youngest, he's meant to get away with more stuff". Or, "Middle child life is hard and unfair - we're just fulfilling that for you". Fortunately adult people get the sarcasm and lack of truth in these statements!!
Any thoughts? What worked for you (as a baby adult, or as a parent!)? What didn't? I am so keen to gather all the sage advice I can find!